Lily's Song & Processing TIps

I wrote this song (I'm a Singer/Songwriter and write a lot of songs about things I am going through to help me process things) called Lily's Song as a way to say good bye to my daughter. I wrote it (amazingly) 2 days after I found out I was miscarrying on the keyboard, through the tears and physical pain of a miscarriage.  I hope it helps..

LILY'S SONG

I wanted to write you a song

But how can I get along?

Without you here

Without you here with me

I'm staring into the sun

It's been 2 days since you've been gone

I wish you were here

I wish you were here with me

But how can I say goodbye?

How can I say goodbye?

Goodbye My love 

I'll sing you this song

Since you're not here

To sing along

God made you so beautiful

You've opened my eyes to see

That there's more to life than this

I wanted to sing you this song

But how can you sing along?

'Cuz you're not here

Oh you're not here with me

I'm staring into the sun

It's been 2 days since you've been gone

I wish you were here

I wish you were here with me

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We all process through things in different ways. Mine is to write/sing what I am feeling or journal my thoughts. Sometimes I never show people the heartfelt songs I've written just because they are for me at the time when I needed it. 

What is your way of processing through pain? I encourage you to find out your method and do it! It really helps.

Here's some examples of things you could do to process (these are just things I came up with that helped me, not saying they are good for everyone!):

1. Journal (Write out what you are feeling with complete honesty, then pray and ask God to help you with the things you wrote.)

2. Paint (It can be abstract, nothing fancy, just something to help YOU. )

3. Go talk to a counselor or close trusted friend

4. Listen to a song that really speaks to your heart and allow yourself to cry

5.  Scream into a pillow your frustrations (I did that a couple times)

6. Cook something (that's what my sister does when she is stressed)

7. Clean something or Organize something (while you are cleaning think about what is bugging you and as things get more organized in your head, so does your house! yeah!)

8. Take a LONG, Undisturbed bath. (Decompress, Think, and Relax)

9. Go on a Run. (For the athletic types this is just what the doctor ordered! Make sure you are physically ready before hitting the pavement of course.)

10. Get lost in a Fun book or go out for a movie or date! (Doing something fun is good for the depressed soul, staying inside only makes the pain close in on you)

11. Plant a tree, Get a gravestone, Dedicate a bench at a park, or plant a Lily for your Babe. (We planted a lily for my daughter Lily and it comes back every year. It is good to have a place you can go to think and reflect)

12. PRAY. PRAY. PRAY. (While you are doing any of these activities, always be in conversation with God. Tell Him HONESTLY how you feel. Ask Him to help you through the heartache.)

Do you have any good processing tips? If so, send them to storyoftrust@gmail.com !

Much Love to you,

Heather